Couples Date Guide: Concert

band performing on stage in front of a crowd
The couples date series is a guide to organizing a day or event to keep the passion alive between you and your partner. The date guide will walk you through how to setup the beginning and middle so you get the perfect ending.

Music. It can be sooo good for the soul. I remember jamming out so hard to Boyz II Men after a breakup in middle school – something about their love songs just did it for my 12-year old self. There’s scientific evidence that shows music can have impacts on our brain, our moods, and many people will tell you how much it means to them.

There’s music, and then there’s LIVE music. And with music having the ability to lift us and connect us, it comes as no surprise that a great idea for a date is planning a date at a concert! I love this date idea for a few reasons:

  1. Live concerts are something you experience together! It creates moments and memories that you can carry through your entire relationship.
  2. Even though you share most concerts with thousands of other people, it feels like a private event between you and your date because the music and lyrics mean different things!
  3. Artists don’t perform everywhere all the time, so it’s a SPECIAL date as opposed to going to your favorite restaurant every week. Things that are special mean a lot!

How to Plan this Ahead

You could do very little except for buy tickets to a concert and have an AMAZING time with you date. But if you want to go above and beyond to guarantee it’s even more thoughtful, then there are few things to think about ahead of time. Assuming you already know the artist/band you want to see with your boo, think about these things next!


Everyone has a different preference. Are you and your date down to do the lawn party thing? Been there! It’s a great time having lawn seats, but it comes with some sacrifices. You can’t always see the best, your personal space can be invaded…but it’s a fun (and cheaper) option.

Or maybe you would rather you guys enjoy your own actual seats. Been there too! More pricey, but man if it doesn’t give you the opportunity for a more up-close experience. If you do decide on seats, where is best? Center or side seats? Up close or farther back? Consider the venue, the cost, any obstructions, and the type of experience you want to have with your date. There’s no wrong answer, but there is likely a best answer to choosing your seats!

What will happen before the concert

Not only are concerts a blast, but what you do beforehand can add to the awesomeness of the entire date! Do you want to tailgate? If so, plan accordingly in terms of what time cars are allowed in, if there are others going you want to meet up with, what you’d like for entertainment (lawn games, drinks), etc.

Maybe you’d rather not hang out with hundreds of people beforehand and instead have more intimate time with your date. If so, going out for a bite to eat and some drinks ahead of time could be your game plan. If that’s the case, think about where to go and give yourselves ample time to get to the concert from where you are.

Which leads to another consideration: traffic! Depending on the magnitude of the concert, thousands of people may also have the same ideas as you so plan ahead for traffic. I once got stuck on a major highway trying to get to a concert because it was a small highway, there was an accident, and it was at a new large venue. Don’t put yourself in a stressful situation if you don’t have to!

How to give/tell your date about the tickets

For me as a romantic, this is my favorite part! Before you start to plan this date, you can easily ASK them if they want to go to a concert and involve them in all the decisions to plan. Orrrrrr, you can surprise them! And the surprise doesn’t have to be anything fancy. You can hand them the tickets after all is said and done or send a text with a picture of them! My personal choice is adding some fun to the surprise. You can use song lyrics to write clues, send a picture of an album cover…be as creative or as straightforward as you like!


This goes without saying, but before you plan the date make sure their calendar is open for the concert date! I would hate for you to plan an awesome date only to find out your date has an obligation that same night. If you’re just getting to know your date, make sure the artist/band you plan to see is something they’ll enjoy. As much as I would love my boo to plan a concert date for us, there is definitely one genre of music he likes and I do not. If that was the genre he bought tickets for, I would be counting down the minutes until the concert was over.

Rock out!

You bought the tickets, know what you’re doing ahead of time, and have solely listened to the group’s music for the past week. Now it’s time to grab your date, head on out, and rock out! There won’t be a lot of time for quality conversation during the actual concert, so remember that going into the date. Make sure to take advantage of the time you have before the concert and driving to and from the event to talk and enjoy each other’s company! You can use the concert itself for dancing together, holding hands, fist pumping, and shoulder sits.

How does this Date End?

There is some bedroom fun potential after this one! Concerts can pump someone up, so after a couple hours of dancing, forgetting about any stress and just enjoying your date, there is a good chance for extending the celebration. Feel it out with your date to see if they’re in the mood, and if so, get to it! Maybe put on the jams of the group you just saw while you do your bedroom thing.

Concert Date Guide

Step-by-Step Guide for Planning a Concert Date

Here’s your condensed guide for how to plan a concert date!

  1. Pick the artist/group. Make sure it’s something you both enjoy!
  2. Select your seats. Party on the lawn, or actual seats? Decide how close or far away you can be and still have an amazing experience.
  3. Plan what to do before the concert. Think about quality time atmospheres, as well as the timing of getting to the concert.
  4. Decide how to give your date the tickets/tell them about the date. You can involve them from the beginning or do a creative surprise like clues leading up to the date.
  5. Go, lose your voices, and enjoy!

Music is good for the soul. As are fun dates you can experience together – so have fun planning and attending a concert date with your love!

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